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24 February, 2014

15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy

During Year end, I got lovely post from my mentor. I also firmly believe that if not all, we can give up at least some of the below mentioned things, and surely it'll work good for us.



Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go:
1. Give up your need to always be right. 
There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?”Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?

2. Give up your need for control.
Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.
“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu

3. Give up on blame. 
Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.

4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk.
Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.
“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle

5. Give up your limiting beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!
“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle

6. Give up complaining.
Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, many things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.

7. Give up the luxury of criticism.
 Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.

8. Give up your need to impress others.
Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take of all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.

9. Give up your resistance to change.
Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” 
Joseph Campbell

10. Give up labels.
Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer

11. Give up on your fears.
Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.
“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.”
 Franklin D. Roosevelt

12. Give up your excuses.
 Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.

13. Give up the past.
 I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.

14. Give up attachment.
This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another,  attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.

15. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations.
 Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need…and eventually they forget about themselves.  You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.

18 February, 2014

Blind can see what we can't

Below attached information is true inspiring story, happened with my mentor's friend, who is working in Singapore. I'm sure you will like it.



"I am sharing this wonderful experience a friend of mine recently had in Singapore.

I was invited to one Friday evening event by one of MNC Vendor organization who had organized the event to raise funds for the visually handicapped people in a center for blind people.

Since it was a Friday evening, I first thought to skip the event considering it could be a bit boring and rather spend the evening relaxing by some other means.

But being alone and sometimes finding it difficult to kill time, I thought of accepting the invitation and registered online for booking. Moreover it was free :) which was another motivation to go to the event. I was looking at the event as a means to pass some time, meet few people and nothing else.

When I went there, there were approx 40 people from various industries invited for that event. I found some Indians and naturally talked to them about how life is in Singapore etc etc. Initially we were shown a video about the visually handicapped center. What are their activities, how are they helping blind people in Singapore to lead a more fulfilling life, etc . It was a short 15 minute video and quite inspiring; how people from different walks of life spend time in helping these blind people without expecting anything in return. They shared the satisfaction and fulfillment they get by helping them.

After the video, we all were gathered in a hall and were briefed about the next event. The theme of the next event was "Dining in the Dark". And this was the event which turned out to be so inspiring and worth sharing.

What it meant was that all 40+ people present were going to have Dinner in a pitch dark room !!!! The next 2 hours were completely planned, organized, directed and executed by three blind youths. One was a girl ( Leader ) and the other two were boys, assistantig her, thus forming a team of three blind volunteers.

The blind leader first gave us tips for dining ( These were ACTUAL STANDARDS THE BLIND PEOPLE FOLLOW IN ORDER TO MAKE
THERE LIFE EASIER )

 1, When you sit at your table the things will be placed as follows :
   at 3 o clock of your dish : You will find a spoon.
   at 9 o clock : Fork;     12 o clock : spoon.      2 o clock : Empty Glass
   Dish at the center with Paper napkin tucked at 6 o clock.

2. There will be two large Jugs circulated to you. The Jug with plain walls will have water and the Jug with curved wall will have orange juice.

3. When you get your Jug based on your choice you have to pour it in your glass. You have to dip your forefinger in the glass so that when you fill it and the liquid touches your finger, you stop pouring.

She asked whether everyone had understood . All said yes but everyone was confused and trying to remember what she had said and confirming from each other. The next 1 1/2 hours we spent were full of fun and learning. In a completely pitch dark room where we could not see ANYTHING, we were enjoying varieties of delicious food without seeing it.

All 40 of us were taken in groups in the dark hall . Each one was directed by a blind person and was seated into their respective chairs.  ( We were finding it awkward because actually we are supposed to guide blind people to their destination and help them )

We were served a full five course dinner by this team of three blind people- welcome drinks, appetizers, starters , main course and desserts. The amazing thing was that the team of three blind people were serving vegetarian dishes to vegetarian people who were sitting randomly in the room !!!

While registering online we were asked to declare whether we were "Vegetarian" or "Non vegetarian".  Being one, I chose the former.  We were so nicely hosted that we did not have to wait in between serves . As we wud be finishing one dish, we were served with the next without any delays.

After approx 1 and half hours of dining in the dark, the leader asked whether everyone had finished eating. After confirmation from us, she switched on the lights of the dining room. We left the Dining Room with tears in our eyes.

We realized how lucky we are and how we have been gifted with perfect vision to see the beautiful world. We realized how difficult lives of blind people are ( and other handicapped) without being able to see. We realized how uncomfortable we were for just two hours without being able to see anything and how they must be living their entire lives in this condition!  We realized how unfortunate we are, that we do not value such simple things in life we have and crib, sometimes overtly and sometimes quietly, and run after what we claim we don't have, and ignore the blessings we are blessed with!

 Be cheerful. Value whatever you have in life.  There's no harm in striving harder for more, but don't make it the basis of your existence, don't make it a rule that you MUST have more!  You'll never have the time or the inclination even, to enjoy what you already have, if you do!

You need to experience it , something like I had experienced , to believe this philosophy of life."

31 January, 2014

The substance of life..…

Good message came from Nigerian Circle on holy name:
 
Death has to happen to everyone, in one way or other, inevitably and eventually. What is really important till then? During the time of life is when we actually can do something. What values did we leave behind for the world? What example did we gift to our children and to the world around us? What did we actually do to develop and show our love for God and for humanity and all other beings? That is all that really matters, because whatever money we make, whatever fame and power we acquire, whatever political successes we may have, it is all like the waves, ripples and foam on the surface of the Ganges. It is all coming and going; none of it has much substance. But to awaken to the eternal truth, that is the greatest success of life.


22 December, 2013

Real Mary Christmas


Real Event in my life: Day before yesterday I was pleased with the scene I'd seen on road, when I was waiting for my friend to pick me up for meeting in his car. One public Bus came with full loaded people into it and it was traffic time. One old person, he was unable to walk properly so his relative or some one helped him by literally lifted him to get into bus. He was so weak that after getting into bus from front door, he was unable to step up two steps and then to move further. Bus driver waited for him for long, then he requested one person to get up so that this old man can sit there and he can drive smoothly in traffic hours. When that person sit and made comfortable there after bus driver started his bus. Person who lifted him shown thumps UP to him. Looking into this scenario even I could not resist and shown BIG THUMPS UP to driver for his brilliant job. I was really touched. It's not a story which come in Internet or what's up or social media. It's live scene in front of me. Which means in traffic time, with so many boarded in the bus, none of the people made any noise (they also acted like Jesus follower) and Bus driver was too good. I would still say, because of people like this world is still surviving. And trust me I would say that this is real Christmas celebrations and not by throwing big party's in the pub with celebrities. I'm sure you all with agree.

 

















30 September, 2013

Navratri - visit 4 Adishakti Pitha or 51 Shkati Pitha (Godess Parvati) or 18 Mahashakti Pitha

Below list may help you to check where are Maa Parvati (Durga / Amba)'s Shakti Pitha, So during Navaratri You can visit there and take blessings.

Four Adishakti Pitha:

Sr. No. Place Body Part or Ornament
1 In Puri, Odisha (inside Jagannath Temple complex) Pada Bimala
2 BerhampurOdisha, Odisha Sthana(Breasts) Tara Tarini
3 Guwahati-Assam Yoni khanda Kamakshya
4 In Kalighat, Kolkata- West Bengal Mukha khanda Dakshina Kalika












Sr. No. Place State in India/Country Body Part or Ornament Shakti Bhairava
1 Amarnath, from Srinagar through Pahalgam 94 km by Bus, Chandanwari 16 km by walk Jammu and Kashmir Throat Mahamaya Trisandhyeshwar
2 Ambaji, at Anart Gujarat Heart Ambaji Batuk Bhairav
3 Arbuda Devi, at Mount Abu Rajasthan Adhar Arbuda Devi or Adhar Devi Bhairav
4 Attahas village of Dakshindihi in the district of Bardhaman, near the Katwa railway station West Bengal Lips Phullara Vishvesh
5 Bahuchara Mata, at Becharaji Gujarat Left hand Bahuchara Mata Kal Bhairav
6 Bahula, on the banks of Ajay river at Ketugram, 8 km from Katwa, Burdwan West Bengal Left arm Goddess Bahula Bhiruk
7 Bakreshwar, on the banks of Paaphara river, 24 km distance from Siuri Town, district Birbhum, 7 km from Dubrajpur Rly. Station West Bengal Portion between the eyebrows Mahishmardini Vakranath
9 Bhairavparvat, at Bhairav hills on the banks of Shipra river a little distance from Ujjaini town Madhya Pradesh Upper lips Avanti Lambkarna
10 Bhabanipur union, at Karatoyatat, 28 km distance from interior Sherpur upazila, Bogra District Bangladesh Left anklet (ornament) Arpana Vaman
11 Chandika Sthan or chandisthan, at Munger temple on the banks of Ganges near Ganga Darshan Bihar Left eye Chandika or Chandi devi Bholeshankar
12 Chintpurni or Chhinnamastika, in Una district, Himachal Pradesh, 20 km from the Amb Andaura railway station, 150 km from Chandigarh. Himachal Pradesh Feet Chhinnamastika Devi Rudra Mahadev
13 Danestwari (Kuldevi Of Bastar state ), Dantewada 80 km from Jagdalpur Tehsil Chhattisgarh Daant (teeth) Danteshwari Kapalbhairv
14 Gandaki, Pokhara about 125 km on the banks of Gandaki river where Muktinath temple is situated Nepal Temple Gandaki Chandi Chakrapani
15 Goddess Saptashrungi (Goddess with 18 arms), at Vani in Nasik Maharashtra Chin (2 parts) Bhramari Vikritaksh
16 Hinglaj (Or Hingula), southern Baluchistan a few hours North-east of Gawadar and about 125 km towards North-west from Karachi Pakistan Bramharandhra (Part of the head) Kottari Bhimlochan
17 Jayanti at Nartiang village in the Jaintia Hills district. This Shakti Peetha is locally known as the Nartiang Durga Temple. Meghalaya Left thigh Jayanti Kramadishwar
18 Jessoreswari, situated at Ishwaripur, Shyamnagar, district Satkhira. The temple complex was built by Maharaja Pratapaditya, whose capital was Ishwaripur. Bangladesh Palms of hands and soles of the feet Jashoreshwari Chanda
19 Jwalaji, Kangra from Pathankot alight at Jwalamukhi Road Station from there 20 km Himachal Pradesh Tongue Siddhida (Ambika) Unmatta Bhairav
20 Kalipeeth, (Kalighat, Kolkata) West Bengal Right Toes Kalika Nakuleshwar
21 Kalmadhav on the banks of Shon river in a cave over hills near to Amarkantak Madhya Pradesh Left buttock Kali Asitang
21 Kamgiri, Kamakhya, in the Neelachal hills near Guwahati Assam Genitals Kamakhya Umanand
23 Kanchipuram, Kamakshi temple, Kamakoti Peetam mentioned in Lalita Sahasram, Trishati, Astothram etc. Tamil Nadu Ottiyana (Ornament covering stomach) Kamakshi Kaal Bhairav
24 Kankalitala, on the banks of Kopai River 10 km north-east of Bolpur station in Birbhum district, Devi locally known as Kankaleshwari West Bengal Bone Devgarbha Ruru
25 Kanyashram of Balaambika - The Bhagavathy temple in Kanyakumari, the southernmost tip of mainland India, Tamil Nadu (also thought to be situated in Chittagong, Bangladesh) Tamil Nadu Back Sarvani Nimish
26 Karnat, Kangra Himachal Pradesh Both ears Jayadurga Abhiru
27 Kireet at Kireetkona village, 3 km from Lalbag Court Road station under district Murshidabad West Bengal Crown Vimla Sanwart
28 Locally known as Anandamayee Temple. Ratnavali, on the banks of Ratnakar river at Khanakul-Krishnanagar, district Hooghly West Bengal Right Shoulder Kumari Shiva
29 Locally known as Bhramari Devi. In Jalpaiguri near a small village Boda on the bank of river Teesta or Tri-shrota (combination of three flows) mentioned in Puranas West Bengal Left leg Bhraamari Ambar
30 Manas, under Tibet at the foot of Mount Kailash in Lake Mansarovar, a piece of Stone Tibet Right hand Dakshayani Amar
31 Manibandh, at Gayatri hills near Pushkar 11 km north-west of Ajmer Rajasthan Two Bracelets Gayatri Sarvanand
32 Mithila, near Janakpur railway station on the border of India and Nepal Nepal Left shoulder Uma Mahodar
33 Nainativu (Manipallavam), Northern Province, Sri Lanka. Located 36 km from the ancient capital of the Jaffna kingdom, Nallur. The murti of the Goddess is believed to have been consecrated and worshipped by Lord Indra. The protagonist, Lord Rama and antagonist, Ravana of the Sanskrit epic Ramayana have offered obeisances to the Goddess. Nāga and Garuda of the Sanskrit epic Mahabharata; resolved their longstanding feuds after worshipping this Goddess. Sri Lanka Silambu (Anklets) Indrakshi (Nagapooshani / Bhuvaneswari) Rakshaseshwar (Nayanair)
34 Nalhati, known as Nalateshwari Temple near Nalhati station of Birbhum district West Bengal Vocal chord with part of the tracheae Kalika Devi Yogesh
35 Nepal, near Pashupatinath Temple at Guhyeshwari Temple Nepal Groin Guhyeshwari Devi Kapali
36 On Chandranath hill near Sitakunda station of Chittagong District, Bangladesh. The famous Chandranath Temple on the top of the hill is the Bhairav temple of this Shakti Peetha, not the Shakti Peeth itself. Bangladesh Right arm Bhawani Chandrashekhar
37 Padmavati Devi (Padmavatipuri Dham), Panns 80 km from Satna Madhya Pradesh Padm Padmavati Devi Kapalbhairav
38 Panchsagar exact location not known (thought to be near Haridwar) Uttarakhand Lower teeth Varahi Maharudra
39 Patan Devi, at PATNA Bihar left shoulder with cloths Badi Patan Devi/chhoti Patan Devi Bhairav
40 Prabhas, 4 km from Veraval station near Somnath temple in Junagadh district Gujarat Stomach Chandrabhaga Vakratund
41 Prayag near Sangam at Allahabad Uttar Pradesh Finger Alopi Devi Mandir or Madhaveswari Bhava
42 Present day Kurukshetra town or Thanesar ancient Sthaneshwar Haryana Ankle bone Savitri/BhadraKali Sthanu
43 Ramgiri, at Chitrakuta on the Jhansi Manikpur railway line Uttar Pradesh Right breast Shivani Chanda
44 Sainthia, locally Known as Nandikeshwari temple. Only 1.5 km from the railway station under a banyan tree within a boundary wall, Birbhum district West Bengal Necklace Nandini Nandikeshwar
45 Sarvashail or Godavaritir, at Kotilingeswar temple on the banks of Godavari river near Rajamundry Andhra Pradesh Cheeks Rakini or Vishweshwari Vatsnabh or Dandpani
46 Shivaharkaray, a little distance from Sukkur Station from Karachi Pakistan Eyes Mahishmardini Krodhish
47 Shondesh, at the source point of Narmada River in Amarkantak Madhya Pradesh Right buttock Narmada Bhadrasen
48 Shri Parvat, near Ladak, Jammu and Kashmir. Another belief: at Srisailam in Shriparvat hills under Kurnool district Andhra Pradesh Right anklet (ornament) Shrisundari Sundaranand
49 Shri Shail, at Joinpur village, Dakshin Surma, near Gotatikar, 3 km north-east of Sylhet town Bangladesh Neck Mahalaxmi Sambaranand
50 Shuchi, in a Shiva temple at Suchindrum 11 km on Kanyakumari Trivandrum road Tamil Nadu Upper teeth Narayani Sanhar
51 Sugandha, situated in Shikarpur, Gournadi, about 20 km from Barisal town, Bangladesh, on the banks of Sonda river. Bangladesh Nose Sugandha Trayambak
52 Udaipur, Tripura, at the top of the hills known as Tripura Sundari temple near Radhakishorepur village, a little distance away from Udaipur town Tripura Right leg Tripura Sundari Tripuresh
53 Ujaani, 16 km from Guskara station under Burdwan district West Bengal Right wrist Mangal Chandika Kapilambar
54 Vajreshwari Temple, Kangra 18 km from Dharamshala Tehsil, Kangra Himachal Pradesh left Breast Vajreshwari Kalbhairv
55 Varanasi at Manikarnika Ghat on banks of the Ganges at Kashi Uttar Pradesh Earring Vishalakshi & Manikarni Kalbhairav
56 Vibhash, at Tamluk under district Purba Medinipur West Bengal Left ankle Kapalini (Bhimarupa) Sarvanand
57 Virat, near Bharatpur Rajasthan Left toes Ambika Amriteshwar
58 Vrindavan, near new bus stand on Bhuteshwar road within Bhuteshwar Mahadev Temple,Katyayanipeeth. Vrindavan Uttar Pradesh Ringlets of hair Uma Bhutesh
59 Dantakali at Dharan Nepal Teeth Dantakali Devi Bhairav
60 Chandi mandir at Memari Rly stn under Burdwan district West Bengal Intestines (Small) Maa Chandi Shiva
61 Sirkhanda,44 km from mussoorie and 25 km from new tehri by bus. district tehri garhawal near chamba [town area committee] Uttarakhand
body part- head part

62 surkanda mandir at new tehri under tehri garhawal district uttarakhand head (head part) ma surkanda kal bhairav
63 Tarapith Birbhum distric west bengal body part-3rd eye name of devi - ugra tara maa bhairav- chandrachur

18 mahashakti Pitha are given below:
Sr. No. Place Part of the body fallen Name of Shakti
1 Trincomalee (Sri Lanka) Groin Shankari devi
2 Kanchi (Tamil Nadu) Back part Kamakshi Devi
3 Pandua (West Bengal) Stomach Srigala Devi
4 Mysore (Karnataka) Hair Chamundeshwari devi
5 Alampur (Andhra Pradesh) Upper teeth Jogulamba devi (Yogamba devi)
6 Shrishailam, (Andhra Pradesh) Neck part Bhramaramba devi
7 Kolhapur (Maharastra) Eyes Mahalakshmi devi
8 Mahur (Nanded District, Maharastra) Right hand Ekaveerika Devi
9 Ujjain (Madhya Pradesh) Upper lip Mahakali devi
10 Pithapuram (Andhra Pradesh) Left hand Puruhutika devi
11 Jajpur (Odisha) Navel Biraja Devi
12 Draksharamam (Andhra Pradesh) Left cheek Manikyamba devi
13 Guwahati (Assam) Vulva Kamarupa devi
14 Prayaga (Uttar Pradesh) Fingers Madhaveswari devi
15 Kangra,Jwalamukhi (Himachal Pradesh) Tongue Vaishnavi devi
16 Gaya (Bihar) Breast part Sarvamangala devi
17 Varanasi (Uttar Pradesh) Wrist Vishalakshi devi
18 Sharada Peeth(Kashmir) * Right hand Saraswathi devi