Learning while staying away from your Parents or Sweet Home

Since childhood I stayed with my parents and studied locally (since I was in Grater Mumbai - Metro City), since good schools were available to me (I'm still not sure, how much I utilized that to my benefit?)

During my working life, I was given a posting in City: Ahmedabad, State: Gujarat (India) - Which was 1st incident in my life, where I was staying away from Joint family (Parents and brothers). I was glad at least I took my wife & 2 children with me. So learning while staying away from parents / elders:
- Attend all functions & events (can be funeral / marriage / hospital visits etc..), which are socially required to attend (which was till date done by parents, and till that time I was not much involved)
- Stay close to your nuclear family (because until that time, even If I won't be around, at least some of the family member will be there to take care of them).
- Keep some provision of cash at home/Bank for crisis/unforeseen events (which I used to give it monthly full salary to parents, rather keeping any thing for provisions, they use to keep those provisions).
- More freedom, since there is no elder to watch us (or guide us). But show more responsibilities towards own kids.

When I got my 1st job assignment out of India (Nigeria). Honestly I was feeling homesickness and I came back too after staying for 3 weeks. But bread / butter is necessity for each family. So went back....and got learning like:
- Calling / viewing family is also big moral booster, which can give you doze for some time (depends on each individual) to carry alone-with out any family members. Calling/ Chating is event which is costly affair (depends on which country you are), but again I understood that ">PERSON PAYS MORE FOR HIS/HER PASSION /HOBBY THEN FOR HIS NECESSITY
- Holiday is for completing pending work at home (so called), like cleaning clothes, Ironing clothes, cleaning of house, shopping for household things. Most of the people who are unable to communicate with family will go mad, since nothing more to do as time pass and hence used ti dislikes holidays.
- You will be always anxious to reach back to family members / home as early as possible.
- You will attend all National & Religious activities in your Non-resident Forum, which you have never bothered during your local stay in your home country. You are now refined patriot.
- If you are staying in PG / Guest House then your time table will be ruled by the Owner or your room partner (not by spouse / parents).
- You will not like if your room mate is visiting his / her home town, since you will envy him. But if he / she is coming back then you will appreciate (one reason also includes that he/ she will bring some thing from his home made eatable - which you are missing for many days).
- Other friends, who was never bothered to talk to you, when you were locally available, now since he is also out of family and hence become (pretend to be) your best friend.

In nutshell, I can say that all journey of life is making your reverse relations depending upon how long you are going to be with them (in term of time period), longer the stay, approach is casual (like family members) and Shorter the stay, friendly behavior (May be thinking works here, I may not meet this GUY / GAL, why to take a "PANGA" (fight) with him / her). Only with All mighty this works in positive manner, more the stay, more closeness you will find.

Have a pleasant stay with your family forever. God bless you.

Ramadan Eid, Ganesh Chaturdhi and Michhami Dukdam

It's real auspious day when Ramadan Eid, Ganesh Chaurthi & Michhami Dukdam has arried on the same day.

I wish all my readers best wishes to you and all your beloved one the same. GOD BLESS You.

Ramadan Eid is celebrated after Ramzan month - where all Islam Brothers and Sisters follow fastings.They follow this to take forgiveness in any Sins/ evils done in the past. Any religeous fastings helps person to control his/her senses and teaches the lesson of patience and improves spirituality. Muslims don't drink, eat or indulge in those activities which are prohibited during fastings / religious activities from Dawn to Sun set. After sun set they can have normal life.

"Michhami Dukdam" (forgiveness) is also followed by fasting of 8 days in Jain religion. Jainism request to follow only boil water to drink without any food. After sunset they can't have even boil water. On the day of "Paryushan" (next day after 8 days of all fasting) they asks forgiveness - If by action, mind or speech - if we have hurt you - knowingly or unknowingly then please Michhami Dukdam.

Ganesh Chaturdhi was started by Lokmanya Balgangadhar Tilak, who was by profession a lawyer, but for the coutries freedom, when Britishers where ruling India. He was aware that Britishers are not objecting any religious activities of local people, hence in the name of Ganesh Chaturshi, he wanted all Indians should get united and take a firm steps against Britishers to move them out of India. His plan was fully succeed, becuase till date all across India this festival is celebrated and people gets united and do some cultural / religious activities.

It's said that Ganesh Chaturdhi and Ramadan Eid came on the same day after 1431 years. I'm not sure combination of above three festivals came after how many years. But it's a GOD plan and things are going in perfect direction. Best wishes to all of you.

Dahi - Handi / Janmastmi / Govinda with Sri Chaitanya Mahaprabhu's thoughts

Wishing you all Happy Janmastmi.

grhe thako, vane thako, sada 'hari' bole' dako, sukhe dukhe bhulo na'ko, vadane hari-nam koro re.

Meaning: whether you are a Grihastha having a profession with a family and children and home, or whether you are a sannyasi traveling, preaching, living in the jungles, if you sincerely chant the holy names, take this medicine of Hari Nam regularly everyday, you will be free form all the happiness and distress of this world and you will be established in the eternal divine joy of Krusna. And then Krusna takes birth within our hearts . And when we chant the holy names we can perform the greatest welfare service to all humanity by allowing the ambrosial sweet sound of Hari Nama to echo through the entire universe. And if we perform this activity with sincere hearts, we are truly celebrating the real Janamashtami of Lord Sri Krusna. We are inviting Him again to appear again in His name into this world. So let us all now celebrate Krusna's Janmastami by loudly chanting the holy name according to direction of Sri Chaitanya Mahaprabhu. And say his famous bhajan quotes –

“Hare krusna Hare Krusna Krusna krusna Hare Hare, Hare Ram Hare Ram Ram Ram Hare Hare”.

Happy Pateti - With 10 Tips for successful business

Happy Pateti

10 tips for successful business networking:
1. Always be genuine. People can generally see through a fake exterior.
2. Keep several interesting conversation topics in the back of your mind for awkward pauses. But don’t use them in the middle of conversation.
3. Be clear about your work and why you do it. This will establish you as an expert in your field and a clear-headed individual.
4. You should always know in what ways others can help you out, so that you have ready answer when they ask you for any help.
5. If you meet someone who can benefit from what you do, always take the initiative to call them and offer help.
6. Remember that people have a tendency to find stories interesting. A good way to make a great 1st impression is to have a funny story at hand of how you are in your current line of work.
7. Given unexpected answers to regular questions like “How are you?” – People expect “Fine, thank you”, but give them something a little more interesting words “TOP OF THE WORLD” etc... This will have a conversation starter + memorable 1st impression.
8. Watch you body language. Don’t keep arm crossed (it shows rigidity in acceptance of ideas).
9. Always carry business card with you. We never know when we need that.

10. Always listen to what people are saying, Don’t just pretend to listen. It’s always a good idea to ask a follow-up question, as it tells the other person you are interested in him/her.

Happy Independence Day with Beautiful Notes

Happy Independence Day to you and all your beloved one's

– Bholenath took poison on the request of God & Evil Spirits during “Samudra Manthan” to protect Universe and became “Nilkanth”, Shri Ram along with many citizen done sucide in Saryu river. Jesus has to climb on cross happily due to Judos. Socratis was given poison. Mohammad has to suffer due to their own Kureshi Caravan. Mahavir was tortured by Gosal. Gautam Buddha was harassed by his cousin brother Devdatta. In short all the good people has to go through the pain, jealousy and rivalry but they have never given up and that way they became godly person.

Best wishes for Guru Purnima with Valuable Notes

Dear Friend,

This time I've decided that rather then just wishes, Let me share some good note.

This is what the sastras (Hindu religion) teach. To our superiors, we serve them by hearing submissively from them, and by carrying out their orders. We try to, in a very humble and menial way, assist them in their service to the Lord. That is how we serve our superiors. To those who are equal to us, we serve them by developing very loving friendships. By becoming very intimate with one another. And that intimacy should be based on God’s prayer with consciousness. It is not required to live as a monk in the temple. Everyone receives benefit according to the faith and devotion he gives, whether big or small. Whatever devotion one has, he invests and gets profit. Thus one's capital accrues. Then he reinvests the enhanced capital. In this way one will very soon be Spiritually Rich.To reside within a temple, one should be on the level of bhajana-kriya or anartha-nivrtti. But those living at home can be on any level, higher or lower. And even if one has only a small degree of faith, still that has value and can be reinvested. Therefore the preachers should encourage people to bestow their faith in GOD (whichever GOD you believe in). "O Lord, I have simply wasted my life. Even though I obtained the human form of life, I did not worship GOD. Thus I have knowingly drunk poison." I walk back toward my office, shutting my mind out from everything around me. I want to focus on my spiritual life. A sense of urgency overcomes me. Like a desperate man, I start to take stock of my devotional life. I ask myself: Is my chanting of the holy names good enough? Why am I not getting the real taste for chanting? Why is my chanting done as a routine chore, like any other activity? Why does my soul not cry out for the Lord? Why am I so attached to this humdrum life? The Lord is willing to give us permanent residence in His spiritual abode. I resolve to take devotional service more seriously. As Kali-yuga, the present degraded age, expands, opportunities to chant the names of the Lord will diminish. Let us make the best use of this opportunity and not wait for another life. Who knows what kind of a body or in what situation we will find ourselves in our next life? Better to sacrifice everything in this life, become fully GOD's conscious, and go back home, back to Godhead. You can chant GOD’s name softly for personal meditation or loudly with your family or friends. Both ways work. It’s free. Chanting never costs you money. There are no previous Qualifications needed for chanting. Young or old, anyone can chant—from any race, any religion, or any country of the world. Thanks.

Small One Liner statements, but useful TIPS

- Have a firm handshake.

- Look people in the eye.

- Sing in the shower .

- Own a great stereo system.

- If in a fight, hit first and hit hard.

- Keep secrets.

- Never give up on anybody. Miracles happen every day.

- Always accept an outstretched hand.

- Be brave. Even if you're not, pretend to be. No one can tell the difference.

- Whistle .

- Avoid sarcastic remarks.

- Choose your life's mate carefully. From this one decision will come 90 per cent of all your happiness or misery.

- Make it a habit to do nice things for people who will never find out.

- Lend only those books you never care to see again.

- Never deprive someone of hope; it might be all that they have.

- When playing games with children, let them win.

- Give people a second chance, but not a third.

- Be romantic.

- Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.

- Loosen up. Relax. Except for rare life-and-death matters, nothing is as important as it first seems.

- Don't allow the phone to interrupt important moments. It's there for your convenience, not the caller's.

- Be a good loser.

- Be a good winner.

- Think twice before burdening a friend with a secret.

- When someone hugs you, let them be the first to let go.

- Be modest. A lot was accomplished before you were born.

- Keep it simple.

- Beware of the person who has nothing to lose.

SUVICHAR (GOOD THOUGHTS) સુવીચાર

Dear Readers,

Wishing you all Merry Christmas & Happy & Prosperous New year. I wanted to share new year with wise thoughts, timely I got mail from one of my friend from US. Putting up for all of us.

* સાચવવા પડે એ સંબંધો કદી સાચા નથી હોતા,અને જો સંબંધો સાચા હોય તો એને સાચવવા નથી પડતા..
* સંજોગો બદલાય છે,વ્યવહાર નથી બદલાતા માણસ નથી બદલાતા ખાલી તેમના અભીગમ બદલાય છે...* માણસને સાચા સ્વરૂપમાં ઓળખવો હોય તો તેને સતાસ્થાને બેસાડો.
* જીવન માં એટલી બધી ભૂલો ના કરવી કે પેન્સિલ પેહલા જ રબર ઘસાઈ જાય !!

* જીવન માં ફક્ત એક સારી વ્યક્તિ નો સાથ હોય તો આખી જિંદગી જીવી શકાય છે, પણ ક્યારેક ફક્ત એ એક સારી વ્યક્તિ ની શોધ માં આખી જિંદગી વીતી જાય
* દરેક માણસ પાસે એક એવું મોટું કબ્રસ્તાન હોવું જોઇએ, કે જેમાં એ પોતાના મિત્રોના દોષો દફનાવી શકે
* મિત્ર એ એવી વ્યક્તિ છે કે જે તમારા હ્દય મા ગુંજ્તા ગીત ને જાણે છે, અને એ જ ગીત ને યાદ કરાવે છે જ્યારે તમે ગીત ના શબ્દો ભુલી જાઓ છો

GOD - MOTHER - SAINT

God was aware that he can't reach easily everywhere and every place all the time (not because it is not possible by him - But he was aware that probably Human Being will not trust that - " How come GOD is every where and every place all the time - Because Human being will feel less importance for himself as well as for GOD. This is also because he can't massage his EGO too, that GOD comes only at our place/house etc.), So GOD came out with best idea, he gave MOTHER in every home, who will work on his behalf and give all love and take care of all family members. She will be guide and teacher too. Shri. Rabindranath Thakur Said that People will trust and believe every one that he is such a famous and big personality, but his family members and neighbors will never believe that famous personality, because they have seen them since childhood and his all activities - good and bad. They can't see his good or major side of it, but they will always fall back on lower side. So GOD as given one more substitute of Mother, hence we have so many saints /Paygambar/ masiha / messenger, who are working on behalf of GOD (like GOD / Mother they were also sacrificing entire life for societies upliftment and betterment with out any self motive). But most of us are either believed them when they passed away (not when they were alive) - some are still unfortunate by not trusting them even now. They some times shown ways of life to Human kind by walk the talk / preaches / Books / Messages.

The life of a great saint is itself a miracle. These miraculous works of Saints are not like magic or jugglery. Magic and Jugglery is temporary in nature. The miraculous works of incarnated saints are exceptionally great. These miraculous works transmit permanent influence and wherever it reaches, those locations are beyond the reach of magic or jugglery. Such miraculous works are always in the public interest and philanthropic in nature. All great saints, during his lifetime has performed numerous miracles, sometimes for the mental pleasure and sometimes in the favour of the devotees. The primary aim of their miracles was to eliminate the sufferings of his devotees and to make them happy as well. A magician performs miraculous jugglery and gives deception to the public but great saints by their exceptional miraculous works makes one bow their head.

Quotes from Swami Vivekanand

Before sharing few quotes of Swami Vivekanand, let me tell you that I'm believer and follower of few Hero's (for one or more reasons) (let me add here that I try and see their positive points only, because each Individual has some negative points). Those hero's are (few of them, which are top of Mind - because like Lord Dattatreya, who had 24 guru's each for specific reasons) - Lord Shri Ram; Mahatma Gandhi, Swami Vivekanand, Shri Sai baba; Bhagat Singh; Abraham Lincoln and recent times Amitabh Bachhan; Kapil Dev; Sachin Tendulkar; Warren Buffet; Narayan Murthy; APJ Abdul Kalam Azad etc.. I have shared Gandhiji's famous Bhajan; Bhagat Singh's Peom, so today I got below attached quotes of Swami Vivekanand.

“When I Asked God for Strength
He Gave Me Difficult Situations to Face

When I Asked God for Brain & Brown
He Gave Me Puzzles in Life to Solve

When I Asked God for Happiness
He Showed Me Some Unhappy People

When I Asked God for Wealth
He Showed Me How to Work Hard

When I Asked God for Favors
He Showed Me Opportunities to Work Hard

When I Asked God for Peace
He Showed Me How to Help Others

God Gave Me Nothing I Wanted
He Gave Me Everything I Needed.”

- Swami Vivekanand

Wise Thoughts

• Every morning in Africa a Deer wakes up, it knows it must run faster than the fastest Lion or it will be killed. Every morning a Lion wakes up, it knows it must run faster than the slowest Deer or it will starve to death. It doesn't matter if your a Lion or Deer, when the Sun comes up, you'd better be running.
• If we miss an opportunity, don’t fill the eyes with tears, as it will hide another better opportunity in front of us.
• ANGERS BLOWS OUT THE LAMP OF THE MIND - INGERSOLL
• DO NOT COMPLAIN THAT ROSE BUSH HAS THORNS. REJOICE THAT THE THORN BUSH BEARS ROSES - ARABIAN PROVERB
• KEEP A SECRET, IT’S YOUR SLAVE. TELL IT, AND IT’S YOUR MASTER -HENRY
• WHEN THE GOING GETS TOUGH, THE TOUGH GET GOING -KENNEDY
• WHEREVER WE LOOK UPON THIS EARTH, THE OPPORTUNITIES TAKE SHAPE WITHIN THE PROBLEMS-NELSON ROCKFELLER

Some useful thoughts, words & stories

Life has gone with so many conversations, we have left behind so many memories, those memories when re-collected leaves tears, would those days return? Would those friends meet? Those who are busy working towards their goals? Where have those days gone? Time is too strong! Miss you my dear friends! Hope we meet again one day in our journey of life!

1st he was dying to finish his high school & start college. Then he was dying to finish college and start working. Then he was dying to marry and have children. Then he was dying for his children to grow old enough so he could go back to work. Then he was dying to retire. And now he is dying... And suddenly he realized,that he had forgot to live...So PLEASE Don't Let this happen to U..Live today like there is no tomorrow..Enjoy Life..

5 important lessons to learn from a humble PENCIL : 1. It tell you that everything you do will always leave a mark, 2.You can always correct the mistake you make, 3. What's important is what is inside you and not the one which is outside, 4. In life you will undergo painful sharpening which will make you better in what you do, 5. To be the best you can be, you must allow yourself to be held and guided by the hands that hold you.

• There was a blind girl who used to hate every one except her boyfriend.She always used to say that I''ll marry you if i could see Suddenly one day some one donated her eyes and then when she saw her boyfriend, she was astonished to see that her boy friend was also blind! Her boy friend then asked,'' WILL YOU MARRY ME NOW?''she simply refused...... Her boy friend went away saying JUST TAKE CARE OF MY EYES!

Well Said

The road to success is not straight...There is a curve called failure...A loop called confusion...Speed bumps called bad friends...Red lights called enemies...Caution lights called family...You will have flat tyre called jobs...But, if you have a spare wheel called determination.., An engine called perseverance.., Insurance called faith.., A driver called GOD.., You will make it to a place called 'SUCCESS'.

The most selfish one letter 'I' - Avoid it. Most satisfactory to letters 'WE' - Use it. Most poisonous three letters 'EGO'- Kill it. Most used 4 letters 'LOVE'-Value it. Most pleasing 5 letters 'SMILE'-Keep it. Fastest spreading 6 letters 'RUMOUR'-Ignore it. Hard working 7 letters 'SUCCESS'-Achieve it. Most enviable 8 letters 'JEALOUSY'- Distance it. Most essential 9 letters 'PRINCIPLE'- have it. Most divine 10 letters 'FRIENDSHIP'- maintain it.

9ratri festival - Gujarati Quotes

I tried my best to translate in english for easy understanding:

Man Mangso Nahi, Man Apjo (Don't demand for heart, give your heart)

hetu vagar het kare e hir (without any motive if somebody shows affection / love, he is real saint)

Riti, Niti ane Priti thi madel Laxmi Ja MAHALAXMI kahevay. (Money which is earned from true means, practice and love is the real TREASURE)

અશ્રુ એ પ્રાથનાની ભાષા છે. (Tears are the real language of any prayers)

Jena gajava ma Money na hoy, tena modha ma mithas jaruri che, (Person who is without money, he should keep his tongue with sweet words).

પ્રેમ માંગશો નહીં, આપશો. (Do not demand love, ,, - give love).

Quotes from Famous personalities 12

The qualifications as per David Ogilvy in good leaders are:-

1. High std of personal ethics
2. Big people, without pettiness
3. Guts under pressure,
4. resilience in defeat
5. Brilliant brains-not safe podders
6. A capacity for hard work & midnight toil
7. Charisma - charm and persuasiveness
8. A streak of unorthodoxy - creative innovators
9. The courage to take tough decisions
10. Inspiring enthusiasts - with trust & gusto
11. A sense of humour

Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is to always try just one more time - Thomas Alva Edison

A leader must necessarily b aware of his / her potential. Consider that a magnetised piece of iron will lift about 12 times of its own weight. But if you demagnetize this same piece of iron. It will not lift even a feather! Dr. Joseph Murphy in his book the power of your subconscious mind.

Things don't turn up in this world until somebody turns them up. James Garfield

Take each good day & relish each moment. Take each bad day & work to make it good - Lisa Dado

In the long run men hit only what they aim at - Henry David Thoreau